We are home safe and sound although coming along on I 94/80 near Gary,IN I was as close as I ever want to be to a semi that was drifting into our lane, my passenger side, to go nowhere as the traffic was heavy and all lanes were filled. Fortunately the truck driver came to his senses or heard Jerry laying on the horn; when we finally got past him in our own lane to his left, he glared as if we'd done something. I said a loud thank you to my "people" and guardians. The trucker appeared to be in his 40's, skinny pointed nose and looked stoned, but don't ask me how I determined that as he was wearing those reflector mirror sun glasses. Most often the truckers we have met along the road are decent folk who want to avoid accidents too, this character looked hell bent to crash. This part of the highway has had lots of construction and likely will have forever. Generally we go farther south in IN, but decided to take the shorter route. The mad trucker veered off toward Chicago and proceeded to terrorize other motorists. I was glad to be sitting high up in our coach, still did not want to share a seat and a tiny car would not have had a chance. Another bump on the road was on I 80 which was shut down to a stand still in IL while more construction occurs, which made for a long drive. When we return to PA in July we will avoid I 80 as it likely will not be completed. The funny thing was we veered farther north, to MI on 31, missing our Hwy 20 connection to I94. We have always wanted to go north along the Lake in MI and return down the WI side and sitting in the traffic stop, Jerry said, "we should have kept going north." Ah well, all's well that ends well.
All is unloaded at home and the laundry is in full force. I picked up MIL's clothes from the SNF today to add to the heap. She refuses to allow them to do her laundry while we are gone, my fault for doing her laundry while we are here. Although I mark her clothing and it could have survived the facility laundry which is done by a local woman whom I well know, MIL gets her hackles up and refuses. She has plenty of clothes to last over a month, but the underwear is another story. Her solution besides not changing daily (eeyew) is to rinse them out in her sink. I am tired talking to her about this and Jerry refuses to discuss further too. You can imagine his reluctance, how would you like to tell your 94 year old mother that she is not clean? What I do not understand is how the SNF allows her to get away with this, rinsing them in her sink in her room and then hanging them over the back of a chair to dry? She does have a private room and other than ensuring she is up and around and well, I suppose they find so much going on that this is a minor thing. Leave it to her to find something bizarre to do and to invoke her obstinate streak.
Now to the title of the post, today we have a hot humid day here in La Crescent; very unusual. It is a flashback to the PA humidity that ravages the summers there and makes me unhappy to be there. In August 2004 when Mom died it was as humid as ever and I really thought we would perish in her home. How did we kids of the 60"s grow up without air conditioning in those old two story homes and thrive? I don't remember being all that uncomfortable as a kid so I suppose we were acclimatized and then we had no idea about air conditioning. A fan was rare. All what we get used to. I know that my southern friends in La. move very slowly in the humidity if at all. I think that's where the southern drawl generates, no fast movement and speech even slows down.
I dislike heat except when in AZ in winter and I do not like humidity, no not at all. Here in La Crescent we generally have beautiful summers, seldom humid and 80's, real Chamber of Commerce weather. I suppose we can take a day of this, tomorrow it will be different. The weather is ever changing here, day to day. So , I decided to hose off the rose bushes and budding flowers because the predicted rain has not arrived. The ground has enough water but I know that budding flowers appreciate a sprinkle on a hot windy day That's something else we rarely do, water flowers or lawns unlike CA where it was necessary else be barren brown. I also thought it would be a good way to get some sun myself. This escapade lasted about 45 minutes and I had enough, thank you. Jerry told me so, the sun is so hot here in the north with not a cloud in the sky and no pollution to filter it. Our rose garden is about to burst into magnificent bloom as as are the peonies out back along the garden fence. Right now all the salvia and Jacob's Ladder are sporting purple which along with the aliums is attracting humming birds. Generally the hummers gravitate to the red flowers but since I did not plant the front flower box they seem to be settling for the flavor purple. Tomorrow I may tackle that. I so prefer the out doors to the paper work and tedium inside.
I spent several hours on the phone today notifying various entities about Uncle Carl's passing and requesting estate packets, beneficiary forms, etc. Much to do, like being at work again for the state; this is a different state and I have no staff, only my own fingers to press the phone or keyboard and recite the litany repeatedly, date of death, estate, etc. The strangest contact was with the Veteran's Administration about cashing in his WWII Life Insurance policy which he kept all these years. Actually he has received annual dividends over the years that have exceeded the value of the policy. Good for him. After providing the necessary data to the woman who will process the claim and mail out the packet with more paperwork for me to do, she advised me to call another number, the Veterans national call center and report the claim. I thought that odd and asked her, "you mean I have to call another number and tell them you are sending me information?" She replied "yes" as though it were the most natural thing in the world and I must be dull witted to question. Well, consider this is the federal government at it's finest, slogging away, churning. I called the 2nd number which entailed a 15 minute hang on the line to talk, as if to say, "how dare you call here, don't you know we are busy?" I am thankful to use my walk around phone and do other things, not just sit and wait for a human voice. When the man finally came on the line he told me to call the life insurance number, the same number which had told me to call him. I told him I had already spoken to them and the process was underway and they directed me to him. I was nearing the limit of my tolerance for exasperation when he finally said, "well if he was receiving no other VA benefits there is nothing to report, she must have thought he was getting other benefits." So ended that call. Of all the entities, I have had to contact, the VA gets the prize for wasting time. I think of the absolute frustrations vets and dependents must endure dealing with them and then I think how fortunate are the members of the local American Legions and VFW's who have access to local veterans services officers as we do here, the ones who facilitate the process and save lots of grief for individuals. That is worth the membership dues.
PA will appreciate this as they grab their stolen share via inheritance tax. Do I complain about that too much? Likely so, I could do without the hassle, the attorney fees and the paperwork. I am fortunate to have the ability and skills to deal easily with this, many people would be upside down and sideways even attempting. Many would not make the progress as quickly as I do. I have one more stock fund to contact via computer Monday and I must write a nice letter to his 809th US Army Tank Destroyer reunion group to let them know, most of his WWII buddies are gone, but the widow of one has kept in touch with Carl and has been religious about sending cards to him, signing her self by name and "the one who always could dance a good polka." I wonder if she had eyes for my handsome old uncle? And with that I wander away from the keyboard and will find a nice chilled glass and pour some chardonnay.
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Wednesday, June 1, 2011
On the Road Home
We spent overnight here at the Elkhart RV Park in Elkhart, IN after winding along some back roads of western OH and eastern IN. We were here last year October 31 on our return trip from PA; the price at this RV park has increased by $11;we are not surprised as everything is increasing in price despite what the fools who run Social Security say when denying old folks a COLA. Even our trusty hosts, Ed and Fran at Mt. Top, our home in PA increased their fees by $5 per night, their first increase in many years; while Fran was apologetic, I consoled her, "we expect it, price of fuel is driving all prices upward." There are fewer motor homes but the business is still flourishing as this Elkhart has added about 30 additional spaces for rigs. We are again parked next to a million dollar rig, a Patriot; the folks are from TX and full timers.
This morning we looked over the travel logues I keep on our journeys and realized that regular gas prices are up over $1 per gallon just since October 2010, not even a year ago. And lately peiople are supposed to be happy when it recently decreased ten cents! Hah! Today with this coach which uses diesel, that has also increased in price, but Jerry is pleased that with the 10 to 11 mpg he gets with this coach we are ahead in what we spend on diesel fuel compared to last year's gas consumption. This is a phenomena which he understands and which makes my eyes glaze over. Whatever, at least we can still afford to travel.
Elkhart has many open spaces but is looks like over 75% capacity. Mt Top in PA had many construction workers staying there again while they work in the ' burgh but not as many motor coaches, though a couple from FL were next to us and they are regulars there too. They are from the area but live in FL, avoiding the PA inheritance tax. Can't say I blame them as PA is ridiculous with that.
Had a conversation with my friend who is also my estate attorney about that and while he being a full liberal believes it is right for the government to confiscate funds from estates, I fully disagree. The money was already taxed and so if the person wanted to leave it to Disneyland that is their money and not the governments. Rich on the other hand believes it is only fair; fair I say. Well he says why should someone who didn't work a day in their life inherit millions? I say why not, again, the taxes were paid by the deceased and if they saved good for them. Greed and government greed know no bounds. I tease my friend that I must hire a conservative attorney instead of a liberal. However because we go way back and I can trust him, this is a game we play with words. Naturally estate tax is on my mind as I will be administering Uncle Carl's estate and now that I have experience with the PA tax greed from 2009 when my aunt passed, I will be more diligent in tacking and deducting every penny of expense I can. I am pleased Uncle Carl designated a gift to his church as that money will put them over the top for the building fund they have underway on expansion. He is smiling at that, I know as will the Monsignor when he gets the check. But I digress, this is about RV travels homeward.
Each trip as we near home, I can't wait to get there. Although we have house sitters who give us peace of mind, I want to be back in my own routine and off the road. My body misses its workouts. We will reach home sometime early evening today and along the road we gain an additional hour changing to the central time zone from eastern. Jerry says to get a steak out of the freezer for tomorrow as he has not had a steak this entire time and his body is suffering withdrawal. On travel days we eat lightly, a sandwich along the way and last night it was huge salads, more of the fresh asparagus Lowell gave us from his PA garden, some left over pulled pork for Jerry and some seafood salad. As Jerry looked at his meal, he shook his head and said, "pitiful." He is missing meat! I on the other hand am ok with greens and grazing. After all we did have burgers on Monday courtesy of friends, the Hemprich's.
Someday when we stop here in Elkhart we will stay more than a night and go to the RV museum. Someday we will be other places than back and forth between home and PA. But in July it will be back to PA to get the estate sale and home clear out done. I can say I am not looking forward to PA heat and humidity, but it has to be.
I was so thankful for my homeys, my NK cronies who came to the viewing and the funeral and all around are fun good people to be with. I am heartsick about Pam who is fighting breast cancer, but at least now her friends know as she has shared and they can support her as much as she will allow. Patti, another friend has a multitude of health problems too but keeps on moving onward. That's how we New Ken kids of the 60"'s are--get over it and get on with it. No pity parties entertained.
Route home looks like Hwy 20 to 94/80 then to 39, then 90 to the La Crescent turnoff. Six hours driving time.
This morning we looked over the travel logues I keep on our journeys and realized that regular gas prices are up over $1 per gallon just since October 2010, not even a year ago. And lately peiople are supposed to be happy when it recently decreased ten cents! Hah! Today with this coach which uses diesel, that has also increased in price, but Jerry is pleased that with the 10 to 11 mpg he gets with this coach we are ahead in what we spend on diesel fuel compared to last year's gas consumption. This is a phenomena which he understands and which makes my eyes glaze over. Whatever, at least we can still afford to travel.
Elkhart has many open spaces but is looks like over 75% capacity. Mt Top in PA had many construction workers staying there again while they work in the ' burgh but not as many motor coaches, though a couple from FL were next to us and they are regulars there too. They are from the area but live in FL, avoiding the PA inheritance tax. Can't say I blame them as PA is ridiculous with that.
Had a conversation with my friend who is also my estate attorney about that and while he being a full liberal believes it is right for the government to confiscate funds from estates, I fully disagree. The money was already taxed and so if the person wanted to leave it to Disneyland that is their money and not the governments. Rich on the other hand believes it is only fair; fair I say. Well he says why should someone who didn't work a day in their life inherit millions? I say why not, again, the taxes were paid by the deceased and if they saved good for them. Greed and government greed know no bounds. I tease my friend that I must hire a conservative attorney instead of a liberal. However because we go way back and I can trust him, this is a game we play with words. Naturally estate tax is on my mind as I will be administering Uncle Carl's estate and now that I have experience with the PA tax greed from 2009 when my aunt passed, I will be more diligent in tacking and deducting every penny of expense I can. I am pleased Uncle Carl designated a gift to his church as that money will put them over the top for the building fund they have underway on expansion. He is smiling at that, I know as will the Monsignor when he gets the check. But I digress, this is about RV travels homeward.
Each trip as we near home, I can't wait to get there. Although we have house sitters who give us peace of mind, I want to be back in my own routine and off the road. My body misses its workouts. We will reach home sometime early evening today and along the road we gain an additional hour changing to the central time zone from eastern. Jerry says to get a steak out of the freezer for tomorrow as he has not had a steak this entire time and his body is suffering withdrawal. On travel days we eat lightly, a sandwich along the way and last night it was huge salads, more of the fresh asparagus Lowell gave us from his PA garden, some left over pulled pork for Jerry and some seafood salad. As Jerry looked at his meal, he shook his head and said, "pitiful." He is missing meat! I on the other hand am ok with greens and grazing. After all we did have burgers on Monday courtesy of friends, the Hemprich's.
Someday when we stop here in Elkhart we will stay more than a night and go to the RV museum. Someday we will be other places than back and forth between home and PA. But in July it will be back to PA to get the estate sale and home clear out done. I can say I am not looking forward to PA heat and humidity, but it has to be.
I was so thankful for my homeys, my NK cronies who came to the viewing and the funeral and all around are fun good people to be with. I am heartsick about Pam who is fighting breast cancer, but at least now her friends know as she has shared and they can support her as much as she will allow. Patti, another friend has a multitude of health problems too but keeps on moving onward. That's how we New Ken kids of the 60"'s are--get over it and get on with it. No pity parties entertained.
Route home looks like Hwy 20 to 94/80 then to 39, then 90 to the La Crescent turnoff. Six hours driving time.
Friday, May 20, 2011
The last of the Generation RIP Uncle Carl
Last night at about 11:40PM, my 93 year old Uncle Carl stopped breathing and made his transition from this valley of tears and trials, onward. Yesterday he was not eating, but was peaceful. At about 12:30PM he told me, "Let me rest now. Patty, you go home." The day before he was rather confused in his hospital bed, but now I look back and know he was making his last steps of his journey, end of this life. He was even humming and singing a song which I did not fully recognize, but I believe it was a Polish hymn, one I often heard my Grandpap hum. How great is that that Uncle Carl had a song in his heart and on his lips his last days. He was ready and so were we, yet when the call came, it set a lump in my heart. The last of my family--this makes me the oldest generation. While I am happy for Carl, I still have a tear flowing at the loss.
Carl was seeing and talking to both his mother and father; some may find this odd, but my Grandma Rose, his mother, was a strong presence in our family and she always appears when death is imminent. I believe the birds he was seeing may have been angels fluttering to carry him. Even in his confusion he was peaceful the last days.
I am thankful that we were here for him in his last days. Thankful that the psoriasis rash that had caused him such discomfort was gone yesterday. Thankful that we have a family funeral home to handle and facilitate arrangements. Thankful for the Army soldiers who will do the military gun send off at burial. Thankful for the local Firemen who will be his pall bearers; he was the last living member of the original charter men who formed New Kensington Volunteer fire Department #1. He will be buried with his beloved fireman's jacket, cap and his Army tank battalion cap. I have made most of his arrangements the past year as I knew it could be any time; I am thankful I was here for him. He trusted me with his life and affairs and I believe I have done my best for him.
We will likely have the funeral on Tuesday with a viewing on Monday. Carl wanted a military gun send off and I know he is going to be watching from afar, as we lower his casket into the family plot, beneath the tree where he would go to sit and visit the others. At Aunt Jinx' service he told me, "Patty, right here next to this tree is where you put me. I can look over the hills at everything." He was ready and prepared and so we say "Till the other side, Uncle Carl; you did it your way and life was good."
Likely I will not be posting for several days. Lots to do. Amen and in His Hands.
Carl was seeing and talking to both his mother and father; some may find this odd, but my Grandma Rose, his mother, was a strong presence in our family and she always appears when death is imminent. I believe the birds he was seeing may have been angels fluttering to carry him. Even in his confusion he was peaceful the last days.
I am thankful that we were here for him in his last days. Thankful that the psoriasis rash that had caused him such discomfort was gone yesterday. Thankful that we have a family funeral home to handle and facilitate arrangements. Thankful for the Army soldiers who will do the military gun send off at burial. Thankful for the local Firemen who will be his pall bearers; he was the last living member of the original charter men who formed New Kensington Volunteer fire Department #1. He will be buried with his beloved fireman's jacket, cap and his Army tank battalion cap. I have made most of his arrangements the past year as I knew it could be any time; I am thankful I was here for him. He trusted me with his life and affairs and I believe I have done my best for him.
We will likely have the funeral on Tuesday with a viewing on Monday. Carl wanted a military gun send off and I know he is going to be watching from afar, as we lower his casket into the family plot, beneath the tree where he would go to sit and visit the others. At Aunt Jinx' service he told me, "Patty, right here next to this tree is where you put me. I can look over the hills at everything." He was ready and prepared and so we say "Till the other side, Uncle Carl; you did it your way and life was good."
Likely I will not be posting for several days. Lots to do. Amen and in His Hands.
Thursday, May 19, 2011
Things happen for a reason
Remember that as I try to, "things happen for a reason, usually we do not know at the occurrence but later see the wisdom." Yesterday was one of those days I had to hold onto that.
Uncle on downhill slide and yet hospital discharge imminent; hospitals are in the acute care business and he does not need that. The discharge planner mentioned nursing home placement but I refused. He will return to his personal care home under hospice care; he may return to a more familiar setting and become more alert rather than as confused as he is in the hospital. I pray he not be bed bound but if he is in his final decline that it come soon and that he is comfortable.
Meantime yesterday I contacted the woman who had done the estate sale at aunt's a couple years ago for me to see if in her professional opinion (25 years in the business of estate sales) it was worth hiring her for uncle's home. She barely stepped inside the basement where we were working and was astonished, "Are you kidding? Do you have enough to make it worthwhile? I can see just from here that his collection of tools and sporting equipment will be a good sale." She works on commission and so at the worst I will net nothing after expenses, but that is doubtful according to her. I told her the neighbor had been offering to buy the home and telling me to just take what I wanted and leave the rest and he'd dump it. She shook her head and said, "No don't listen to him. He wants to sell this." She said this sale could be a "picker's dream" and certainly would attract men and not to worry, the old sturdy furniture is exactly what sells easily around here." She is booked until June so likely July we can proceed and that means a return trip to PA. 2011 is looking to resemble 2009 when aunt died and we spent so much time here before and after--there's the Alaskan trip we had thought of, now down the road, another year! Such is life, we plan and God laughs.
Later in the day I caught up with the neighbor and told him I was hiring a woman to do the estate sale, he winced. Then we talked price; I told him I needed an appraiser and mentioned the $ range and what I would discount for avoiding realtor fees. He countered with his offer, the first time I'd heard this, at less than half. At his price I would be giving it to him and if I wanted to do that I would find a charity to benefit first by donation. So back to Plan B, proceed with estate sale then realtor listing. The housing market is very slow in these parts, but we are not desperate to sell. It would be nice, but we can wait.
Strange how even so seeming "good hearted people" like Walt the neighbor can have an ulterior motive. I did offer to pay him $$ for the mowing he did voluntarily last summer; I have offered this before and he has always refused. He refused reimbursement again yesterday; his last words were, "well you know my offer if you change your mind." I'm not that crazy nor desperate! I have contacted my nephew to pick up this job on his landscape mowing business and I will pay him as he hires workers. That was my original intent anyway so nothing new.
Jerry said Walt likely wanted to buy the home cheap and fix up/ fine tune then flip it. That sounds right, but not on my watch. So it was a disappointing outcome, but if I can keep the faith that things happen for a reason, it will all work out.
Meantime the nursing home at home in MN where Jerry's mother resides called us yesterday; she slipped and hit her head in the bathroom. reportedly she did not break anything but when we saw the call come in, we thought, "now what?" Jerry talked to her last night and she was not concerned, said she had just slipped. Who knows? Life strangely twists and winds and pushes us beyond what we find comfortable. And the rain continues to keep the ground soggy here in Western PA.
Uncle on downhill slide and yet hospital discharge imminent; hospitals are in the acute care business and he does not need that. The discharge planner mentioned nursing home placement but I refused. He will return to his personal care home under hospice care; he may return to a more familiar setting and become more alert rather than as confused as he is in the hospital. I pray he not be bed bound but if he is in his final decline that it come soon and that he is comfortable.
Meantime yesterday I contacted the woman who had done the estate sale at aunt's a couple years ago for me to see if in her professional opinion (25 years in the business of estate sales) it was worth hiring her for uncle's home. She barely stepped inside the basement where we were working and was astonished, "Are you kidding? Do you have enough to make it worthwhile? I can see just from here that his collection of tools and sporting equipment will be a good sale." She works on commission and so at the worst I will net nothing after expenses, but that is doubtful according to her. I told her the neighbor had been offering to buy the home and telling me to just take what I wanted and leave the rest and he'd dump it. She shook her head and said, "No don't listen to him. He wants to sell this." She said this sale could be a "picker's dream" and certainly would attract men and not to worry, the old sturdy furniture is exactly what sells easily around here." She is booked until June so likely July we can proceed and that means a return trip to PA. 2011 is looking to resemble 2009 when aunt died and we spent so much time here before and after--there's the Alaskan trip we had thought of, now down the road, another year! Such is life, we plan and God laughs.
Later in the day I caught up with the neighbor and told him I was hiring a woman to do the estate sale, he winced. Then we talked price; I told him I needed an appraiser and mentioned the $ range and what I would discount for avoiding realtor fees. He countered with his offer, the first time I'd heard this, at less than half. At his price I would be giving it to him and if I wanted to do that I would find a charity to benefit first by donation. So back to Plan B, proceed with estate sale then realtor listing. The housing market is very slow in these parts, but we are not desperate to sell. It would be nice, but we can wait.
Strange how even so seeming "good hearted people" like Walt the neighbor can have an ulterior motive. I did offer to pay him $$ for the mowing he did voluntarily last summer; I have offered this before and he has always refused. He refused reimbursement again yesterday; his last words were, "well you know my offer if you change your mind." I'm not that crazy nor desperate! I have contacted my nephew to pick up this job on his landscape mowing business and I will pay him as he hires workers. That was my original intent anyway so nothing new.
Jerry said Walt likely wanted to buy the home cheap and fix up/ fine tune then flip it. That sounds right, but not on my watch. So it was a disappointing outcome, but if I can keep the faith that things happen for a reason, it will all work out.
Meantime the nursing home at home in MN where Jerry's mother resides called us yesterday; she slipped and hit her head in the bathroom. reportedly she did not break anything but when we saw the call come in, we thought, "now what?" Jerry talked to her last night and she was not concerned, said she had just slipped. Who knows? Life strangely twists and winds and pushes us beyond what we find comfortable. And the rain continues to keep the ground soggy here in Western PA.
Wednesday, May 18, 2011
Everyday a new world
Yesterday Uncle Carl was totally delusional, from his hospital bed he is "under contract" and filling boxes, then stacking them, and occasionally chasing birds from the air and asking how did they fly in? He thought Jerry was a priest and I one of the salesmen. His cranial memories are replaying. I can see the end and pray it is not a long good bye. In past hospital admissions, he has been very confused out of his routine at the assisted living home but I see rapid acceleration of decline, of the dementia from Thursday evening where he was alert in the ER to yesterday when he refused to tell the nurse his name. They have not even had him up yet out of bed so I wonder how they can discharge him, but there is that Medicare pervasiveness on reimbursements and hospitals are only to deliver acute not custodial care.
At the least he is comfortable. It would be a good thing if the organs would fail when the mind goes, this feeble existence is not him and he certainly did not ever consider he'd end up this way; despite his living will, the body keeps on. A predicament and another reason for Dr. Kevorkian's relief, but who could/would make that decision.
I went to the committee meeting for our 50th high school reunion last night. They are making good progress and now have a tentative date, location, menus, caterer; watching the group, I observed that Peggy is really organized and knows how to ask questions. I hope they do better at finding most of us for this celebration over life's trials and triumphs. Lack of cyber/computer knowledge will be disadvantageous; maybe I can help some. It is difficult for me to understand the backwardness of people not using what is available, email, Facebook, etc. especially for our generation, but it seems to be about a 50/50 around here. I am reminded that people only know what they know and parochialism can prevail if one's world is not expanded. I somberly notice that of the committee of seven of my classmates (I made 8) 4 of them have major physical illnesses including breast cancer, kidney stones, one is facing surgery Tuesday for an aortic aneurysm that was just detected, one has recovered from prostrate cancer. Only two of us have been blessed with relative good health and so when we return home and it is time for my annual physical, who am I to complain about any twinges? Some of our class of "62 are no longer with us. This 50th has to be a celebratory gathering of survivors.
We need to scoot over to uncle's home today and await the meter reader. He has a gas meter inside in the basement and periodically the gas utility company needs access to read and ensure all is ok; this was not a problem when he lived there but with the home vacant, it is inconvenient and I do not want to invest the $10,000 estimated to put this meter outside. Lowell, the nephew who lives here has met them there in the past but since we are in town, I can do this today. I also have contacted Sandy, the estate sale lady to determine whether or not we should hold a sale; many tools and items remain in the home. We neither want to nor can take anymore although Jerry keeps picking up tools and I add a bowl or glass piece now and then. A lifetime of careful accumulation will go cheaply to buyers; this is confirmation to downsize much as you can while living. The cost to hire her though may not be worth while if we net next to nothing. We will see. Potentially the neighbor wants to buy his home and if we can settle on a reasonable price that will be a significant relief to me; my little red flag is waving though that he may want the place for a cheaper price than I am willing to sell. He has advised me to take what I want and just leave the rest, easier said when I know there are some significant tools and I look longingly at an old porch swing, heavy wood that my grandma used back in the 1930's. We have no place for it but it does tear at me to leave it behind. That and Uncle's magnificent old porch glider, sofa size, aluminum frame, like new after all these year. Much as I would like to get rid of the home, the local housing market is not good. For all the traffic and people around this area, there is little movement in homes for sale; but I put this into Higher Hands as all else.
Rain continues to pour here in western PA, where the ground is soaked. Who would have thought I would need boots?
At the least he is comfortable. It would be a good thing if the organs would fail when the mind goes, this feeble existence is not him and he certainly did not ever consider he'd end up this way; despite his living will, the body keeps on. A predicament and another reason for Dr. Kevorkian's relief, but who could/would make that decision.
I went to the committee meeting for our 50th high school reunion last night. They are making good progress and now have a tentative date, location, menus, caterer; watching the group, I observed that Peggy is really organized and knows how to ask questions. I hope they do better at finding most of us for this celebration over life's trials and triumphs. Lack of cyber/computer knowledge will be disadvantageous; maybe I can help some. It is difficult for me to understand the backwardness of people not using what is available, email, Facebook, etc. especially for our generation, but it seems to be about a 50/50 around here. I am reminded that people only know what they know and parochialism can prevail if one's world is not expanded. I somberly notice that of the committee of seven of my classmates (I made 8) 4 of them have major physical illnesses including breast cancer, kidney stones, one is facing surgery Tuesday for an aortic aneurysm that was just detected, one has recovered from prostrate cancer. Only two of us have been blessed with relative good health and so when we return home and it is time for my annual physical, who am I to complain about any twinges? Some of our class of "62 are no longer with us. This 50th has to be a celebratory gathering of survivors.
We need to scoot over to uncle's home today and await the meter reader. He has a gas meter inside in the basement and periodically the gas utility company needs access to read and ensure all is ok; this was not a problem when he lived there but with the home vacant, it is inconvenient and I do not want to invest the $10,000 estimated to put this meter outside. Lowell, the nephew who lives here has met them there in the past but since we are in town, I can do this today. I also have contacted Sandy, the estate sale lady to determine whether or not we should hold a sale; many tools and items remain in the home. We neither want to nor can take anymore although Jerry keeps picking up tools and I add a bowl or glass piece now and then. A lifetime of careful accumulation will go cheaply to buyers; this is confirmation to downsize much as you can while living. The cost to hire her though may not be worth while if we net next to nothing. We will see. Potentially the neighbor wants to buy his home and if we can settle on a reasonable price that will be a significant relief to me; my little red flag is waving though that he may want the place for a cheaper price than I am willing to sell. He has advised me to take what I want and just leave the rest, easier said when I know there are some significant tools and I look longingly at an old porch swing, heavy wood that my grandma used back in the 1930's. We have no place for it but it does tear at me to leave it behind. That and Uncle's magnificent old porch glider, sofa size, aluminum frame, like new after all these year. Much as I would like to get rid of the home, the local housing market is not good. For all the traffic and people around this area, there is little movement in homes for sale; but I put this into Higher Hands as all else.
Rain continues to pour here in western PA, where the ground is soaked. Who would have thought I would need boots?
Monday, May 16, 2011
PA Bob whites and updates
Male bobwhite |
Wikipedia says: "The clear whistle "bob-WHITE" or "bob-bob-WHITE" call of these birds is most recognizable. The syllables are slow and widely spaced, rising in pitch a full octave from beginning to end. Other calls include lisps, peeps and more rapidly whistled warning calls.Like most game birds, the northern bobwhite is shy and elusive. When threatened, it will freeze, relying on camouflage to stay undetected, but will flush into low flight if closely disturbed. These birds are generally solitary or found in pairs early in the year, but family groups are common, in the late summer and winter roosts may have two dozen or more birds in a single covey." Well here at Mt Top RV, these birds are not shy but aggressive ala western Penny's. Wish I could have had a camera on the side flight.
I have not yet had time to snap more photos of the glorious dogwoods which I mentioned previously in bloom. But I did snap this one leaving Mt. Top the other day as Jerry drove, you can see the white dogwood in bloom in the woods.
View of the woods from car window; white dogwood in bloom |
Well Uncle's long time family doctor was on rounds and immediately changed the diagnosis and treatment for uncle. He says the skin rash is neither shingles (we knew that) nor is it a recurrence of the scabies for which he was hospitalized in March. He said there was no decision by a dermatologist and that he believes a steroid treatment is in order and this is severe psoriasis, complicated by Uncle Carl's hard scratching. I had to laugh as did Dr Ferlin when Carl declared from his bed, "when I itch I scratch!" Uncle Carl was alert and mostly in our world this AM unlike yesterday afternoon when he was so lethargic caring neither to eat nor be awake. They had done an MRI and may have given him a light sedative which reacted strongly on his weakened system. This morning he was up to eating all his breakfast and then some. Diagnosis is not good and as I have suspected he is in decline, but at 93 as the Doctor emphasized "everything is wearing out."
I have determined he will have hospice care when he returns to the personal care facility. However, I cannot discuss this with Dr. Ferlan as the other doctor's reminded me he is very old school and does not believe in hospice, but treating until the end. I encountered this in 2009 when my aunt was terminal; it was not until her release from the nursing home that we arranged hospice. Uncle Carl is wearing out and down but he has surprised us before. Classically his dementia is worse in the evenings. Friday he pulled out his IV's and took off his hospital gown because he was "discharging" himself but ended up on the floor, I made a dash to the hospital to talk sense. That did not work as he thought I was his dead sister, Jinx. His cognition vacillates as do his vitals. This morning his blood pressure was elevated so Dr. Ferlan administered lopressor; Thursday evening in the ER his blood pressure dropped very low. This is all related to the congestive heart failure which will take him on sooner or later. But at 93 all we can do is ensure his comfort and care. Friday evening I took his advanced directive to the hospital as they admitted to not giving him the DNR (Do Not Resuscitate) status. All this information is in their files from his previous admissions in November and March, but lawsuit potential and federal law requires renewing the documentation each admission; I understand this as people do change their minds but Uncle Carl, as all of my family, is vehement about this having drawn up paperwork and updated it. I was astonished to learn yesterday that they still had not flagged him DNR. I marched out to the nurses' station to remedy this once again and was informed that the doctor had to sign off to which I inquired, "well a doctor is in here daily and I provided this on Friday evening so what else must I do, see the doctor myself?" The nurse assured me it would go on his top chart while I said that if an event occurred and they did not follow the directive they would not be enjoying my wrath. So frustrating but I do have the advantage of knowledge and ability to work around and in medical systems and to take care of problems which could wear down a lesser informed individual. .
Left to right Carlie, Rich H, Me (standing), Dayna |
Big news coverage here in the Pittsburgh area is our own Steeler's Hines Ward on Dancing with the Stars. Show time approaches and I will be watching and voting. Each edition of each newspaper has something to say about this, cheering on our own. I am off line and ready for feet up. Hines has attracted watchers to the show from fans, people who have never watched Dancing. That's Steeler Nation.
Wednesday, May 11, 2011
Arrived PA homestate
So here we are at our only place to park the RV at home in PA, Mt. Top RV, Tarentum, off Bull Creek Road. Our hosts Ed & Fran finally had to raise their price after all these years; it is now up to $25 per night with our Passport America discount, still way cheaper than a hotel. Jerry asked Ed when would he add the cable TV at those prices and Ed just looked at him strangely as he deserved. There is electricity and water hook up here but that is it. In years past they hosted an annual bluegrass festival in July but decided that they could make more money just opening this as an RV spot, there being none other in the area here near Pittsburgh. their home is on this property, which Fran inherited from her family. Sad to see her on oxygen now but she looks the same, regrets those years of smoking which led to this, and she is not outside visiting RV's as much as her oxygen hose doesn't reach and she saves the portable for outings.
We have been parking here since 2008 when we had our first new Southwind. Just like everyone who arrives here for the first time, down winding Bull Creek Rd and then up Sun Mt. Road of sorts, one wonders where you will end up. It looks like driving back into Deliverance deep in the woods and hills; these are real Pennsylvania woods not just a clump of trees as someone we know in MN refers to her backyard clump of trees. Right now the spots of natural dogwood trees are making the woods even more magnificent. Pennsylvania is known for its hills and woods, PennsWoods, for the founder, Quaker William Penn pre colonial times.
Every one who RV's here that we talk to says the same thing, "what did you think the first time you drove here?" Previous to finding this place, we had parked the old Southwind which had no slides in Aunt Jinx driveway, but then we did not spend weeks there. When we upgraded there was no way we could fit. Jerry cusses out the streets in these towns which are very narrow making RV driving not so compatible and down right undoable in town. I remind him this is not new, these roads are from the colonial era, old settler trails where homes popped up and 1800"s at the latest. Wide enough for horse and buggy maybe, not today's vehicles with cars parking alongside the curbs. This is a historic area from the country's early times.
Many young guys working construction have trailers and RV's here which is their home while they are working in the area. When the job moves on so do they. This shows industriousness and sense for those who want to work and not draw unemployment and complain about "can't find a job." There is a young family in one trailer with 3 youngsters, about 5, 3, and 2 years old. We watched the little bitty 5 year old, at least so we guess, driving round and round in a mini little Kawasaki ATM, giving her younger sibs a ride in front of her. I told Jerry, "No way would I let a little girl do that" to which he laughed, "you wouldn't even ride such a thing." Correcto! But she, though itty bitty, teeny tiny, is very cautious, wears a helmet and we watched her pull off the gravel into the field astutely when a vehicle was pulling in yesterday. She made several loops around and around, quite cute.
It's very quiet out here in the boonies and we slept well and long last night. It is also very safe as Ed is always around mowing, fixing, tinkering and the local police drive up the hill and make the loop. I will post photos later. This morning we are soon off to visit Uncle at the assisted living center and then over to his home to begin to clear out the trash for Thursday pick up.
Yesterday we covered a saner 333 miles from Decatur, IN; purchased 47.7 gallons diesel in Beaverdam OH for $194 and topped off again with 35 gallons for $150 at Sam's at Mills Mall before arriving here--that fill up at expensive PA prices will get us across the state to Gettysburg and beyond and south if all works well. Road tolls have increased since last year; OH charged $3.25 for a short segment of Interstate 76 and then welcome to my home state of PA where we paid $17 on I 76. I do agree with user fees for many activities so I cannot complain too loudly about the tolls. Except I recall when the first PA turnpike toll road was set up, to pay for the road and then the toll would be done! Hah1 A tax once set in place never goes away. Still the toll roads are in good shape so they are keeping them up; that is except for the I 76 around Akron Ohio which gets worse and worse. We must find an alternate route to that; Jerry has decided even I 80 toll road a bit farther north would be preferable to the washboard through Akron.
Photos later.
We have been parking here since 2008 when we had our first new Southwind. Just like everyone who arrives here for the first time, down winding Bull Creek Rd and then up Sun Mt. Road of sorts, one wonders where you will end up. It looks like driving back into Deliverance deep in the woods and hills; these are real Pennsylvania woods not just a clump of trees as someone we know in MN refers to her backyard clump of trees. Right now the spots of natural dogwood trees are making the woods even more magnificent. Pennsylvania is known for its hills and woods, PennsWoods, for the founder, Quaker William Penn pre colonial times.
Every one who RV's here that we talk to says the same thing, "what did you think the first time you drove here?" Previous to finding this place, we had parked the old Southwind which had no slides in Aunt Jinx driveway, but then we did not spend weeks there. When we upgraded there was no way we could fit. Jerry cusses out the streets in these towns which are very narrow making RV driving not so compatible and down right undoable in town. I remind him this is not new, these roads are from the colonial era, old settler trails where homes popped up and 1800"s at the latest. Wide enough for horse and buggy maybe, not today's vehicles with cars parking alongside the curbs. This is a historic area from the country's early times.
Many young guys working construction have trailers and RV's here which is their home while they are working in the area. When the job moves on so do they. This shows industriousness and sense for those who want to work and not draw unemployment and complain about "can't find a job." There is a young family in one trailer with 3 youngsters, about 5, 3, and 2 years old. We watched the little bitty 5 year old, at least so we guess, driving round and round in a mini little Kawasaki ATM, giving her younger sibs a ride in front of her. I told Jerry, "No way would I let a little girl do that" to which he laughed, "you wouldn't even ride such a thing." Correcto! But she, though itty bitty, teeny tiny, is very cautious, wears a helmet and we watched her pull off the gravel into the field astutely when a vehicle was pulling in yesterday. She made several loops around and around, quite cute.
It's very quiet out here in the boonies and we slept well and long last night. It is also very safe as Ed is always around mowing, fixing, tinkering and the local police drive up the hill and make the loop. I will post photos later. This morning we are soon off to visit Uncle at the assisted living center and then over to his home to begin to clear out the trash for Thursday pick up.
Yesterday we covered a saner 333 miles from Decatur, IN; purchased 47.7 gallons diesel in Beaverdam OH for $194 and topped off again with 35 gallons for $150 at Sam's at Mills Mall before arriving here--that fill up at expensive PA prices will get us across the state to Gettysburg and beyond and south if all works well. Road tolls have increased since last year; OH charged $3.25 for a short segment of Interstate 76 and then welcome to my home state of PA where we paid $17 on I 76. I do agree with user fees for many activities so I cannot complain too loudly about the tolls. Except I recall when the first PA turnpike toll road was set up, to pay for the road and then the toll would be done! Hah1 A tax once set in place never goes away. Still the toll roads are in good shape so they are keeping them up; that is except for the I 76 around Akron Ohio which gets worse and worse. We must find an alternate route to that; Jerry has decided even I 80 toll road a bit farther north would be preferable to the washboard through Akron.
Photos later.
Monday, May 9, 2011
On the Road, the sunny road and 50's memorabilia
Well we arrived in Decatur, IN at some very late midnight hour last night, or is that this morning? A long drive but with the madman at the wheel of his new diesel, intent on persevering, pushing onward toward the goal! I did not realize Decatur in one day was the ultimate goal, but it turns out he was looking to beat his best time even venturing onto I 80 south east to Gary, IN an area we usually avoid. I dozed off on the couch about 10:00PM, enough for a day. Something happens to Jerry behind the wheel of the coach and actually all previous motor homes, and truck campers. He loves to drive and he just keeps at it. Many years back on a caravan to Calgary, Canada with friends we talked about how he and another man became boars behind the wheels, just driving on. Not sure if we meant "bores" but we laughed and decided Road Hogs fit, years before Wild Hogs, the movie. I have said many times that in another life he must have been either a long haul truck driver or pony express/stage coachman. He absolutely loves driving. Me, not so much, but I can keep myself entertained with my Blackberry and other gadgets. Advantage to the coach travel is my frequent potty calls do not have to rely on the driver pulling over.
We went 558 miles yesterday over 14 hours, of which only 10 hours and 27 minutes were moving, one hour lost to time change as we transitioned into the Eastern zone, 45 minutes to refuel, 5 minutes at a rest stop, 23 minutes at Madison, WI Camping World where himself loves to shop, 1 hour and 20 minutes to dine! The rest of the time he was behind the wheel, eyes ahead. I cannot sit still that long, so it is a good thing to be able to get up and down and around!
About his shopping escapade; I waited inside the coach because I have seen enough of the insides of Camping Worlds to last me the rest of my years; I feel the same about Cabela's and other stores of the like. This trip Jerry was intent on procuring some special vent covers sold nowhere else to his specifications. He also picked up a belated birthday present for himself, a new shower head for the coach shower. I liked the old one just fine, but he did not. However, after my morning shower today, the old one has been reinstalled as I complained loudly that I did not appreciate standing in a shower with a hose turned onto me. He had showered first and commented that it was "forceful", which must be the understatement of the month, so far.
Our coach has a tile floor in the bath and in the kitchen and dining area, just fine with me, but himself wanted matching carpet runners for the tile, which he found on sale at Camping World. Another $33, unnecessarily spent to me, but I have abdicated any hope of curtailing his expenditures on this coach. When at home, I purchased an additional decorative pillow for its sofa, he thought that not needed. The sofa is creamy colored leather and I like the pillows adding color and felt one more was needed.
So yesterday's purchases leave us $461 poorer of which $268 was for diesel fuel which was the first fill up since our return trip from AZ when we filled up in Des Moines, IA. Most often we dine at home, but we did get out to dine at an Iron Skillet in Remington, IN whilst deciding whether or not to press on to Decatur. Why did we have that conversation? He already knew what he was planning, but took a break to indulge in a steer burger while I feasted on shrimp alfredo with ziti pasta. Here in the Midwest where food is too plentiful and the cooks are all excellent makes it an experience!
We stay free here in Decatur at the Fleetwood Factory RV ground, a perk for Fleetwood owners in the area. It was nearly full last night when we pulled in but nearly deserted today. Jerry wanted a factory kit to mount the front license plate but after waiting around for an hour, decided to forego that.
Today we lunched at Arnold's a Decatur, IN landmark, a 50's burger joint. My favorite there is the old time cherry coke which I do not even try diet style, instead reveling in the only authentic cherry cokes today, made just as I enjoyed them in my adolescent years in PA. The burgers are some of the best in the country and they make their own potato chips. Health food! There is ever so much stuff and genueine 50's collectabilia inside, that one really feels back to the 50's especially while moving to the original rock n roll music played. We will not be here next week, May 14th when they hold their car hop auditions, yes they really do. Not just anyone can be a skating car hop at Arnold's. Foiled again, I never worked as a car hop yet always thought that would be fun as a teenager. I would be unlikely to pass the age requirement for the auditions; I wonder how they get around that but it is hearland, Decatur. Anyone who gets to this area should experience Arnold's.
I am curious and must learn where the waitresses buy their saddle oxford shoes that all are wearing. Oh I loved those shoes. I recalled being a teeny bopper with a new pair when the game was to purposely step on our toes to scuff up our new whites. One boy tried to do so to my new shoes, but I responded swiftly by hitting him upside his head with a book I was carrying and knocked him to the floor. Another boy witnessed this and said, " Patty, you killed him!" "No I didn't but if he ever tries that again I will!" I was telling Jerry this story today in Arnold's and he shook his head; he marvels that I have friends today after all these years in PA who are glad to see me when we are home, next stop. I said that word got around and no one ever tried to step on my whites again! No shy retiring violet was this girl! By the way that was the same boy I pushed into the waste basket in 8th grade then grabbed him by his hair and out came a handful. One would have thought he'd have known better thanto mess with Patty Lou; Robert Baldridge was his name and I believe he is dead. No I did not kill him!
On to visit friends this afternoon.
We went 558 miles yesterday over 14 hours, of which only 10 hours and 27 minutes were moving, one hour lost to time change as we transitioned into the Eastern zone, 45 minutes to refuel, 5 minutes at a rest stop, 23 minutes at Madison, WI Camping World where himself loves to shop, 1 hour and 20 minutes to dine! The rest of the time he was behind the wheel, eyes ahead. I cannot sit still that long, so it is a good thing to be able to get up and down and around!
About his shopping escapade; I waited inside the coach because I have seen enough of the insides of Camping Worlds to last me the rest of my years; I feel the same about Cabela's and other stores of the like. This trip Jerry was intent on procuring some special vent covers sold nowhere else to his specifications. He also picked up a belated birthday present for himself, a new shower head for the coach shower. I liked the old one just fine, but he did not. However, after my morning shower today, the old one has been reinstalled as I complained loudly that I did not appreciate standing in a shower with a hose turned onto me. He had showered first and commented that it was "forceful", which must be the understatement of the month, so far.
Our coach has a tile floor in the bath and in the kitchen and dining area, just fine with me, but himself wanted matching carpet runners for the tile, which he found on sale at Camping World. Another $33, unnecessarily spent to me, but I have abdicated any hope of curtailing his expenditures on this coach. When at home, I purchased an additional decorative pillow for its sofa, he thought that not needed. The sofa is creamy colored leather and I like the pillows adding color and felt one more was needed.
So yesterday's purchases leave us $461 poorer of which $268 was for diesel fuel which was the first fill up since our return trip from AZ when we filled up in Des Moines, IA. Most often we dine at home, but we did get out to dine at an Iron Skillet in Remington, IN whilst deciding whether or not to press on to Decatur. Why did we have that conversation? He already knew what he was planning, but took a break to indulge in a steer burger while I feasted on shrimp alfredo with ziti pasta. Here in the Midwest where food is too plentiful and the cooks are all excellent makes it an experience!
We stay free here in Decatur at the Fleetwood Factory RV ground, a perk for Fleetwood owners in the area. It was nearly full last night when we pulled in but nearly deserted today. Jerry wanted a factory kit to mount the front license plate but after waiting around for an hour, decided to forego that.
Today we lunched at Arnold's a Decatur, IN landmark, a 50's burger joint. My favorite there is the old time cherry coke which I do not even try diet style, instead reveling in the only authentic cherry cokes today, made just as I enjoyed them in my adolescent years in PA. The burgers are some of the best in the country and they make their own potato chips. Health food! There is ever so much stuff and genueine 50's collectabilia inside, that one really feels back to the 50's especially while moving to the original rock n roll music played. We will not be here next week, May 14th when they hold their car hop auditions, yes they really do. Not just anyone can be a skating car hop at Arnold's. Foiled again, I never worked as a car hop yet always thought that would be fun as a teenager. I would be unlikely to pass the age requirement for the auditions; I wonder how they get around that but it is hearland, Decatur. Anyone who gets to this area should experience Arnold's.
I am curious and must learn where the waitresses buy their saddle oxford shoes that all are wearing. Oh I loved those shoes. I recalled being a teeny bopper with a new pair when the game was to purposely step on our toes to scuff up our new whites. One boy tried to do so to my new shoes, but I responded swiftly by hitting him upside his head with a book I was carrying and knocked him to the floor. Another boy witnessed this and said, " Patty, you killed him!" "No I didn't but if he ever tries that again I will!" I was telling Jerry this story today in Arnold's and he shook his head; he marvels that I have friends today after all these years in PA who are glad to see me when we are home, next stop. I said that word got around and no one ever tried to step on my whites again! No shy retiring violet was this girl! By the way that was the same boy I pushed into the waste basket in 8th grade then grabbed him by his hair and out came a handful. One would have thought he'd have known better thanto mess with Patty Lou; Robert Baldridge was his name and I believe he is dead. No I did not kill him!
On to visit friends this afternoon.
Front counter at Arnold's Decatur, IN |
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