Pumpkins on our front porch step |
I know dependent adults who require excessive direction, prompting, coaching even codgering. It is one thing when they are elderly such as my MIL, but it is another for clingy adults who cannot function alone. I wonder where they have set their brains amidst the straw in their minds, or did they ever have much to begin with? I know parents who cripple their children with dependency, I see it in our family. Mature young adults who remain attached to mommy and daddy's shoe laces and do not or cannot form their own friendships outside the home.
It is said use it or lose it and that applies to thinking and reasoning ability. Sometimes the control is by another in their household or sometimes it is by religions. I know people who might as well have feathers and wings and be colorful parrots for their lack of ability to reason or think, all they do is mimic. Perhaps the political season exaggerates this or perhaps that is the nature of Facebook junkies. Whatever is happening it nourishes plenty of opportunity for those who would control others to gain an edge; sometimes I worry that we have become lemming people. To me the witch giggling on her laps shows individuality, no one has to ride along with her. She is enjoying herself absolutely and that is an ability everyone needs. What a blessing, to be comfortable in your own skin, to enjoy your own company such that you are not desperate for constant companionship. I am not talking about becoming a hermit, or a recluse, a socially with drawn misfit, but about having inner esteem and balance. What a gift, to be as happy as a witch in a broom factory! Enjoy the flight, there is no other seat on the broom.