Today on Facebook, Carlie, a close friend shared an old Polish saying but in English. It took me back years, when was the last time I heard it, perhaps 2010. It was something my granpap Teofil and later,his son, Uncle Carl, said all the time. Something I had forgotten and something I felt was a great reminder. "Not my circus, not my monkeys" Granpap said that all the time when someone would try to bemoan something that was going on which he felt was not his business and he would not be bothered. It wasn't that he was uncaring or unsympathetic but he knew that some folks just whine all the time and if you let them they will soon snare you into moaning along with them. He had overcome many obstacles in his life and he would not accept someone else's burdening him. His philosophy was deal with it or shut up. This at times annoyed my grandma Rose who would say, "Pap you can't just ignore that." and he'd reply, "hah! Sure I, can watch..." And off he would go on his way about his business usually whistling or humming. He had another saying like "don't tie your monkey to me" which meant get lost with that.
I really had not considered this being a Polish proverb, just something they said and passed on from father to son. Polish for circus is "cyrk" or "sorkus" and often refers to a mess or a strange situation, something chaotic. In Poland monkeys, "malpy" are associated with chaos, trouble, and down right nuisance. So if the monkeys are running around loose or escaping from the circus, well you get the picture. Monkeys are "problems" in Poland, and circuses are where
"problems" come from. If it's not your monkey, and it's not even from
your circus, then it's not your problem. It is a basically simple philosophy and stops some people from spreading further gossip as well, no one will listen and there they stay with mouth agape.
How frequently I think that today the monkeys are really running the zoos. Now that I have been reminded of this wisdom I will adopt it more fully, not that I get easily distracted by such nuisance. The delete button works well on email and on Facebook I hide the ever whiners. I don't read their agonies. Call it cold hearted, I call it release from what others would use to drag you along or ignoring the lamentations. I used to tell people that if I wanted to hear such gnashing and whining I could read Lamentations in the Bible. Those unfamiliar with the Bible were clueless to what I meant. In my career as a state bureaucrat I developed a skill for being physically present but mentally off elsewhere, to shield and amuse myself when I was captive in ever too long meetings or hearings and some tiresome soul was pontificating. Here years later, I still invoke that skill by semi-listening to what someone may be saying when usually it is not my monkey and surely not my circus. There is ample happening in my life with friends who have cancer, are handling real illnesses, losses, and financial issues; with Jerry facing back surgery and so it goes. All else, nope not my monkey.
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Friday, March 7, 2014
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