|Bird watches the berries by the lampost|
photo taken on one of my walks
Her daughter does not care, obviously and will not come to visit her mother, big deal she lives in another state, there are planes today, shame on her, someday she may regret her neglect. Her younger son, I believe, feels he did his duty by appearing this past August with his family. Well at least he made an effort after four years. These are my simple opinions, very sad for them, they have not a clue what lies ahead. Maybe I selfishly want them to participate for our relief, they have not and will not now. Jerry ignores it, says, " why would they change now?" and he reminds me I expect too much.
I have a friend in PA who said caring for her elderly mom that she was an only child until the will would be read. Well here is a flash to Florence's other children, the cost of the care in the SNF has all but diminished your mother's money. We have bought her personal care items and clothes the last years while you were never interested nor asked us what she needed. You went along your merry way. Do not appear with your hands open and out when she passes to collect your share, there is nothing $$. And beware the cold winds of karma that blow your way. I find these people most irritating. What goes around comes around, something like that, I don't know if the Hindus, Buddhists or whoevers have it right.
" .. As my life today....has been determined by the way I lived my yesterday,......
So my tomorrow is being determined by the way I live my today. Ralph Waldo Trine
The daily SNF visits leave us both very tired. It takes a hunk out of our days, but what else can we do? So until something very unusual happens or MIL passes on, we are tied to a circular duty, one that was not our choice, but one that we assumed, catch, here comes another curve ball in the game of life.