|December 2012 Florence right seated, blue and gray|
in the SNF with Santa, the annual Christmas party.
For someone who will be 96 in January, not bad.
|Florence in the middle uprooting Jerry and his sister, Dianne|
from MN for CA 1950
|Florence and Lyman their 25th anniversary in CA|
My career in long term care along with my family gave me an abundance of expertise and experience yet it is tiresome. Jerry's full sister has been dead for several years but the other two, his halves, the younger Larson children, roll along merrily without any responsibility for their mother. I suspect if they think of anything, could be that they will not inherit the $$ they thought they would; it is being paid to the SNF which has enhanced our lives. Still it is the overseeing, frequent check in visits, follow ups with medical issues, appointments, my doing laundry, keeping her in clothes, buying, and on it goes. We have more freedom to travel today yet hesitated to plan too far ahead, the back of our minds nag, "what if...." It makes me laugh out loud when some of the "family" say that they would like to come to see her, but then they never give up any part of their lives or plans and so they merely chatter along. So many excuses.
But slowly we are working through this trial just as we have others in our lives. Today we booked a 20 day land tour and cruise package to Alaska for August 2013 John Hall's Alaska, the Klondike, the works. It is expensive, but we are also looking forward to spending our hard saved money while we can. Here is the link to the tour package by a local MN company out of Lake City. They will even babysit our car and take us to and from Minneapolis for the connecting flight. http://www.kissalaska.com/ Destined to become good friends, that's what happens when you lack family, you choose friends.
Our own plans are going to take first place, if we do not do this for ourselves, there is no one else who will. Besides all that, we deserve it in spades. It's a new attitude. Make way for us. This is our time of life, our friends have assured us of this repeatedly.